Breakups are miserable. We all know this, especially all of you going through one of them right now. But have no fear, because I’ve been there and know just how crappy they can be. One thing that makes them significantly shittier, however, is if it’s a particularly terrible breakup.
Maybe he cheated on you. Maybe she was messing around with your friend behind your back. Maybe both of you are just two people that can’t deal with abandoning a relationship and so there was a huge blow out.
No matter what the situation was, if you’re going through a horrible breakup, you’re going to need a hell of a lot of help – which is why I’m here. If your life just got turned upside down AND you have to deal with a possibly psychotic ex who’s making the situation that much worse, here are a few words of advice.
1. Be with Your Friends
Your friends should be with you all the time when you’re going through horrible breakup. Not only are they going to cheer you up and remind you that you’re a bad-ass person that deserves only the best, but they’re also going to stop you from drunk dialing your ex and pathetically begging to have them back. So cherish your friends and annoy the shit out of them during this time. They won’t be mad about it. I promise.
2. Let it All Out
Cry. Swear. Run around your neighborhood drunk and naked. Do whatever you need to do to get your emotions out and deal with the reality of your breakup – as long as it’s not ridiculously illegal. Don’t hold in those toxic emotions because they’re going to derail your mental health and nobody wants to deal with you when you’ve gone to Crazyville.
3. Cut Off Communication
Damn it, delete their number! Delete them off of all social media. Cut any ties of communication you could possibly have with them. Trust me when I tell you that you’ll be grateful of not being able to communicate with them when you’re drunk and sobbing over your old pictures. Not talking to them is the best way to ease the process of the breakup. Plus, not allowing them to talk to you will halt any harmful emotional trauma, too.
4. Accept it
Don’t be that person. Don’t be the person that cries and calls your ex 500 times in a day because you just can’t accept the fact that you’re actually over. You have to mourn and go through the stages of grief, basically. And if it’s a particularly horrible breakup, it’ll take time. Just relax, take a deep breath, pour yourself a glass of wine, draw a big bubble bath (yes, guys too because that shit works like magic) and accept that it’s really over and it’s over for a reason.
5. Work Toward Moving On
This isn’t going to be easy, but it’s necessary. You have to work toward moving on if you’re dealing with a horrible breakup. Don’t dwell on the past. It’s over, you’ve accepted it (or are trying to, anyways), and you can move on. That doesn’t mean find yourself someone to replace your ex. It means focus on things that will move your life forward and on to better things.
We all know how much breakups suck. We’ve all had our hearts broken and can relate to going through a horrible break up. If you’re one of the unfortunate to have a particularly terrible break up, these tips can make dealing with them much less shitty.