Long Love

5 Ways to Keep the Love Alive in a Long-Term Relationship

Long-term relationships have the tendency to get redundant and stale. Not because bae is boring, but because when you spend months and years with the same someone, you tend to slip into a routine with them. You always going to the same places, repeat the same stories, and have the same meaningless fights. Don’t worry though, I’ve made you a list of the 5 ways to keep you and bae from turning into an old, sexless married couple. AKA, here are the 5 ways to keep the love alive in your long-term relationship.

1. Surprise Each Other

The only thing better than surprising your boyfriend or girlfriend is when they surprise you. That being said, you have to give some to get some. To surprise bae, you can give them something as simple as a bouquet of flowers or their favorite candy bar. Or you can go bigger. Maybe a home cooked meal, a new video game, a sexy lingerie set, or an impromptu piece of jewelry.

2. Go on Real Dates

To keep the love alive in a long term relationship, you have to keep going on dates. Real dates! Full fledge, bae and bae getting ready and going somewhere dates. Although most people don’t realize it, the key to date night is to switch turns making the plans. To keep from getting bored, be sure to change up the scenery everyone once and awhile. One weekend, put on a cute outfit and then head to a trendy restaurant. For the next date night, put on your sweatpants, stuff your favorite candies in your purse, and go see a movie. The week after that, turn date night into day date and have a picnic or hit up the amusement park.

3. Don’t Let Your Sex Life Slack

In the first few months of hooking up, you and your significant other probably found each other’s weak spots and favorite positions. Months went by and now, most likely, you’re doing the same bedroom routine every time you guys do it. Repetition in the bedroom is not always a bad thing, but it can get boring for some people. Make sure you keep the lines of communication open with your partner. Ask them what they like, what they want more of, and what gets them going. If you’re willing, ask them if there’s anything new that they want to experiment with and speak up if you’re unhappy with things in the bedroom.

4. Try New Things Together

Sex aside, you and your significant other should definitely go out and try new things together. Whether it ends up being awful or the best thing you’ve ever done, trying different things gives you something new to bond over. Who knows, it could even become a fun hobby for you guys. If you’re stumped on new activities to try, here are some ideas: a food market, a rave/concert, a new restaurant in town, an art exhibit, ice skating, some random museum, or the aquarium.

5. Don’t Stop Getting to Know Them

Instead of bitching about random stuff together, sit down and learn about one another’s past. As much as you think you do, you’ll never know everything about him or her. I don’t say that to scare you. It’s just the honest truth. That being said, you should never run out of things to talk about. Play 20 questions. Ask about a random childhood memory or about their future goals. Ask to see embarrassing photos from middle school or their naked baby pics. You’ll be surprised by all the things you didn’t know. And the truth is, people change over time. Maybe their favorite movie when you first started dating isn’t their favorite anymore. As you two change, you’ll have to get to know each other all over again…and that’s part of the fun!

Keeping the person you love around for good isn’t as easy as you might think. But if you treat them right, it’s a hell of a lot easier. 

A Massachusetts native who fell in love with New York City. Writer of poetry and short stories. Wannabe philosopher. Obsessed with red wine, chocolate covered strawberries and thinking about the universe. Dedicated to healthy eating and conscious living.

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