Alright, ladies. This is something that everyone wants to know and very few actually ever figure out. Why is it such a mystery? Truthfully, it’s not. The fact of the matter is that you’ve been fed bullshit about how to get a certain guy to fall for you. I’m tired of that crap. This is how to actually make a guy fall in love with you.
You Can’t – So Stop Trying
Not exactly what you wanted to hear, is it? Well, I don’t really care about what you want to hear. I’m here to tell you the truth. No matter how mad it’ll end up making you. Because the fact of the matter is that you literally can’t make a guy fall in love with you. You can’t force someone to love you.
BUT, you can do a lot of things to make sure you really show someone who you are. That way, you can let the right guy fall in love with the real you. Because too many of you are pretending to be a completely different person in order to “get the guy”. Here’s how you can make sure the right guy is falling for you.
1. Love Yourself
Yeah, yeah, I know. It’s cliché as hell, but it’s something that’s been around for a long time for a reason. It’s true. You have to love who you really are in order for someone else to love you. If you don’t even like yourself, how is someone else going to? You’ll be radiating distaste for yourself and that shit is contagious. Learn to accept the things you can’t change and love all of your qualities – because they make you unique.
2. Don’t Lie About What You Like
This is the biggest mistake girls make when they want to “make” a guy fall in love with them. They learn what the dude likes and then pretend they know all about it. The fact is, guys can tell. They’re not as clueless as romantic comedies make them seem. And when they realize you’re lying about all that shit, they’ll get pissed and be super turned off. So stop it. You don’t have to have every single thing in common with a guy in order for them to fall in love with you.
3. Value Yourself
You have to hold yourself to high standards. Respect yourself. Love yourself. And make sure every single guy you ever talk to knows just how much you value yourself. It’s a very underrated trait that is a huge turn on for guys and ultimately, only the best guys will stay around. Because the shitty guys can tell that it’ll be too difficult to manipulate someone who values themselves. And that’s what you want.
4. Don’t be Shy About Your Passions
It’s easy to feel like your passions are a little dorky or easily judged, but you need to shout that shit from the mountaintops. Do you love puzzles? Talk about them! Do you have a comic book collection? Get excited and tell them about your favorite ones! You have to show every guy you date that you are a passionate person and what you’re passionate about. This helps attract guys who really care about those things. That, and passion is sexy.
5. Stop Trying
Y’all are trying way too hard. You don’t need to. Yes, you have to put in an effort for a relationship to begin and grow, but you don’t have to overthink everything and try so damn hard to get someone to like you. A guy who likes you for you is going to like you no matter what. You can’t hide who you truly are but it will be masked by the fake version you’re trying to portray.
You can’t force love. You can’t make someone like you who wouldn’t naturally. All you can do is sit back, live your life, be yourself, and let guys fall for the real you.