I wrote this and quickly realized that I was kind of making a list of things I wish my fiance did more. I love my fiancé, and I’m sure your girl loves you, but there’s always room for improvement. If you’re looking for cheeky Cosmopolitan “grab her ass in public” advice, this isn’t it. But if you’re serious about wanting to make your girl even happier than she already is, keep reading.
1. Make the F*cking Bed
Okay, so my first one isn’t that deep and it’s not the most important thing in the world, but it’s such a wonderful feeling to crawl into a nicely made bed at night! It makes everything much cozier, we don’t have to fight over twisted sheets and blankets, and it looks nice. Make the bed with her as a team, or surprise her. She will definitely appreciate the effort.
2. Listen More
This is probably the simplest, yet most neglected thing a guy can do for his girl. I don’t know how many times I have to tell my significant other about appointments I have, when I’m working, or even what I said two minutes ago. If she tells you something, it’s probably for a reason. It shouldn’t be ignored. It’s not that hard to pay attention and it has such a big payoff for you and her. It feels nice to be listened to, even for the littlest of things.
3. It’s Not What, It’s Why
Every article ever written will probably tell you, “tell her that she’s beautiful” and emphasize that it should be specifically BEAUTIFUL not sexy, pretty, or anything else. Honestly, adjectives are just like stamps and a lot of people call us a lot of things and most of the time, they don’t mean much. My mom tells me I’m beautiful all the time and I don’t listen to her either. What holds more merit is WHY she is beautiful! We want to know! What makes us beautiful to you? Explain this to us and watch us melt.
4. She Needs Support
I can probably count on one hand how many times my SO has told me he’s proud of me. Think about how good it feels to hear positive, supportive statements and then think about how you can make your lady feel the same way every day. We are so hard on ourselves, and we are constantly being told how we’re not skinny enough, not smart enough, not strong enough, and more and it would be wonderful to hear positive affirmations and nothing but love and support from the man we love.
5. She Needs to Love Herself – So Help Her
It is so important to encourage self-love on a daily basis. I’ve seen so often women who have poor self-image or little self-worth and when they don’t feel worthy, they become dependant on men to give them love and this love is very much one-sided. Unfortunately, those relationships don’t last. Ask her what she loves about herself. Give her time to journal or meditate. Do some self-care or self-improvement activities with her. Read a book, do a face mask, get couples massages, and just make her feel good. She may not love it at first, but eventually, things will come together and she will start loving herself more. Then she’ll be able to share all of that love with you. It’ll be a win-win!
If you are already doing some of these, great! If you aren’t, hopefully I gave you ideas on how you can take your relationship to the next level with these things you can do on a daily basis.