Everywhere you look, you have engaged friends. They’re sharing their ecstatic photos and making you more than a little jealous. Here’s why you should stop.
Make it stop! They’re everywhere you look these days, popping up on your Facebook page, your Instagram feed, and on your twitter too. Cute photos of friends and loved ones committing to a life of eternal love- and you’re happy for them, you really are… but also kind of jealous, too. But you don’t need to be. Here’s why you should stop being jealous of your engaged freinds.
1. Your Time WILL Come
It may feel like it’s an eternity away, but I guarantee that it will come sooner than you think. Just make sure you’re on the same page as your guy or gal, and when everything lines up for the both of you, it will sneak up on you when you least expect it- then you’ll finally be able to post that iconic (and very well thought out) engagement photo on Facebook.
2. Engagement is a LOT of Work
Don’t be jealous. Enjoy your life without the stresses of planning an entire wedding. You may have to deal with a bridezilla of a friend, but let me tell you, her craziness is well warranted! There are so many small things that have to be thought through – be thankful it’s not you at the moment and stop being jealous of your engaged friends.
3. It’s Expensive as Hell
Weddings are expensive. Unless you’re planning on a backyard wedding (which still adds up), your bank account is going to thank you for not being engaged at this second. Start saving for your special day and enjoy spoiling yourself and your partner with fun dates – something you may not be able to do as often if you’re saving pennies for your dream wedding.
4. Get Your Lives Together First
I’ll say it straight, get your lives together first! Weddings are a big deal, and if you don’t have your future figured out, it will just make it that much more difficult for you and your partner. And hey, I’m not saying you can’t do it – if it’s right for you and your lover, go for it! Just make sure you are in a good place yourself before adding a husband or wife to your already chaotic life.
5) Marriage is a Decision for Two
Marriage is the combining of two lives – two lives that were likely lived in very different ways. Things you’ve probably gotten used to deciding in your own life, like if buying that incredibly expensive but really nice purse, have now become a conversation you must have with your partner first. Enjoy the freedom you have as an unmarried couple while you can, before your focus switches to kids and mortgages.
So, don’t be jealous of your engaged friends. That ring on her finger is beautiful, but so is your own relationship. And if you’re not in a relationship, your ability to live selfishly on your own for a little while longer. It will happen for you when the time is right, and you’ll be able to appreciate it even more when it does!