Should you move in together? This is a huge step in any relationship – no matter how long you’ve been together. But how do you know when you’re ready?
So maybe you’ve been dating for years or months or maybe even only a couple of weeks. You know you’ve both got your quirks. You’re also well aware that there’s pros and cons to everything. Despite that, the thought has been tossed around numerous times. However, you’re both still asking the same question: are you really ready to move in together? These are things to think about before packing your bags.
1. You Will Have to Compromise
Is your partner seriously messy? Are you? When you move in together, it can be a true test of how strong your relationship really is. If one of you is a neat freak and the other is constantly leaving dirty clothes around the house, maybe that’s a talk that you have to have before you actually commit to the move. It might seem like a really small thing at first, but compromise is definitely needed.
2. It’s Shared Space
Maybe they listen to the TV really loud, or maybe they play video games with a cinematic level of noise. These are things you’re going to have to learn to deal with when you move in together. You have to figure out if you can live with their habits. Let them know you enjoy your quiet time. Make sure you can both get the space you need. Or maybe you can join them and have some noisy fun harassing the neighbors.
3. More Quality Time Together
When you live together, you spend a hell of a lot more time together. Obviously. This forces you to get to know them on a whole other level you didn’t even know was possible. You’ll have your own space to grow as a couple, get freaky wherever you want to (hey, why not christen that new table?), and really begin your lives together.
4. It’s The Next Step
Hey, there are always exceptions. Maybe you’re already married and are just getting your first place together, or maybe you’re engaged and have finally found the perfect place to settle down. Generally, though, moving in together is the next step in deciding if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. You’ll be around them so much more than what you’re used to that you’ll really be able to figure out if they’re the right fit for you.
5. Shared Responsibility
Let’s face it. Some of us are more mature than others. And it could be the same way with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Make sure that you both have the same expectations before you make the move. It’s not fair to expect that just because your mom might have cleaned up after your messes at home that your lover will do the same. Helping out and making sure that your partner isn’t left to look after all the responsibilities of living together will go a long way.
I think it’s normal to wonder if you’re really ready for this enormous step. It really does change things with your significant other and you will have to be open for compromise and conversation. There will be things you love about living together and there will be things that you absolutely hate. And that’s something you will have to work out one step at a time, together! Enjoy your new place and the constant comfort of the one that you love. Or don’t, the choice is completely up to you.