Fights are going to happen with any relationship on the face of this planet, there’s no getting away from it. But you should never ignore an argument.
Pushing aside a problem will only create deeper issues in your relationship. You need to be able to find the words to describe how you’re feeling and move on from the subject you fought about, and it’s important not to ignore what caused it. You should never ignore an argument for these specific reasons.
1. You Fought for a Reason
There’s a reason you fought. It’s obviously something that the both of you feel strongly about, and disagree on. You need to evaluate what it is that is making the topic so volatile and talk it out. You won’t necessarily always come to a solution, but it’s important that you get to the bottom of why you both feel the way you do. It can even help prevent arguments in the future.
2. You Can’t Move Forward
There are arguments and then there are arguments. The kind that doesn’t let you move on until it’s resolved. You should never ignore an argument that makes you really upset or makes you see your partner in a different light. Don’t forget the way you’re feeling because it won’t change without consciously trying to fix the way you left things. You need to be able to put the fight behind you in order to have a healthy relationship.
3. It Will Build Up
Sometimes, the person you’ve had a disagreement with will think that things have been resolved, when in fact, you’re feeling the exact opposite. You can’t assume that they know how you’re feeling, so you’re going to have to let them know. Don’t suffer in silence, voice your opinions and try your best to come up with a solution to the problem. If you don’t, that issue can just build and build until it’s something you can never fix.
4. Things Will Never Improve
How can you expect things to change if you never step on anyone’s toes? It’s important to directly face what is bothering you. Long gone are the days where we sit pretty and don’t voice our opinions. If you never address the root of the problems you’re having, you will never be able to build a foundation to a lasting relationship.
5. You Must Learn to Stick Up for Yourself
You are the only one who knows how you feel deep down. You need to be able to stick up for yourself. If you feel that you have been ignored, or you don’t want to address the problem because you feel like you’re being a nuisance, remember that you are the key to your own happiness. Others can contribute to it, but if you don’t stick up for yourself, you will never be truly happy.
Don’t ignore the anxiety an unsolved argument or fight leaves behind in its wake. You owe it to yourself to make things right and to keep the positivity and light in your life. Never ignore an argument, and even if bridges have been burned, make things right for yourself with some much-needed closure.