All right ladies and gents, you might be here wondering what the big secret is to achieve a long lasting relationship and I’m here to tell you just that.
Having a long lasting relationship CAN be done, and there is still hope for you and yours, too. If you and your lover are both doing everything I’ve written below, I guarantee you’ll be well on your way to your own happily ever after. And if you’re not, you had better get your ass in gear if you want to keep your significant other.
1. Tell Them You Love them
Do it. All the time (as long as you mean it, of course). There is absolutely nothing wrong with showing the person you cherish how much you care. Say it when you see each other for the first time during the day, before you go to sleep, or whenever you part. It’s important to make them feel loved and it makes you feel good when they respond in the same way.
2. Fight For Them Even In the Hard Times
I know from experience that in long term relationships, you can sometimes hit a low. And when you hit that low, you need to fight for your relationship more than ever. Love is hard sometimes and it takes a lot of effort and patience to grow it during a drought. You may be doubting the future of your relationship during the hard times, but remember what it was like at the beginning and do your best to work back to it. If you think that it will be easier to start over again with someone new, think again. If you aren’t willing to fight for it, history will repeat itself time and time again.
3. Love Their Family Like Your Own
We’ve all seen the movies about evil In-Laws. Guess what? That’s not always the case! If you put in the same amount of effort to get to know them as you did with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you can create incredible relationships and they will begin to feel like another long lost family you never knew you had. If you have a good relationship with your partner’s family, you are building an incredible and strong foundation for a long lasting relationship.
4. Surprise One Another
Yeah, by now you probably know one another like the back of your hand. You can predict what they’ll say or how they’ll react in any given situation. Surprise them occasionally with a romantic gesture like a homemade picnic at your favorite park, or go for a hike and engrave your initials on a tree. There are tons of things that you can do that are completely free and just show how much you care. Surprising your parnter will definitely help build a long lasting relationship.
5. Commit To Date Night
Try to commit to a date night at least once a month. I completely understand that sometimes it’s hard to set aside some extra cash to enjoy one another’s company, but remember that your relationship shouldn’t be put on the back burner in your life. It should be made a priority. Budget your money and treat yourselves to the old dinner and a movie or a fun activity that you both enjoy.
6. Look Good For Each Other
You love them, care for them, would do anything for them, right? Well I think it’s also important to look good for one another. I’m not saying that you have to cut your hair because that’s what they like if you absolutely hate it, but don’t get so comfortable in the relationship that you stop trying completely. It’s still important to keep the physical passion burning in a long lasting relationship too.
7. Show Affection
You think this is obvious, right? Well to some people, it may not be. When I first started dating my boyfriend of six years, I was a stranger to PDA and any type of affection. I was shy, awkward (let’s be honest, that hasn’t changed), and didn’t know how to initiate it. If you make an effort to show affection in public, something simple like holding one another’s hands, or a quick kiss to make them smile, you would be surprised how good that makes a person feel. Let them know with your actions that they mean a lot to you.
8. Be Honest With How You’re Feeling
If you’re angry, tell them. If you’re happy, tell them! Make sure that you keep the communication flowing at all times. The biggest, most looked over secret for a long lasting relationship is communication. The ability to talk to one another seems to be disappearing these days. Don’t let that happen to you. Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone you feel you can’t talk to? The more you practice this skill, the easier it will come to you.
The secret to a long lasting love really isn’t a secret after all. A long lasting relationship is built off of the foundation of trust, love, genuine intentions, and chemistry that you work your ass off to build together. But most of all, it has to be with someone that will put just as much effort into your relationship as you do.