This term has gained a lot of friction as of late – for good reason. Here’s what you should think about if you’re headed into a rebound relationship.
People these days have grown a lot less sympathetic towards other peoples’ feelings. It makes it a lot easier for people to use you for their own purposes, whether that be healing from their own heartbreak, or just a quick fling after a long-term, committed relationship. This is why you should never be in a rebound relationship.
1. Higher Risk of Heartbreak
I’m going to lay it out there for you – this is rocky territory. There’s a possibility they’ve gotten out of a relationship that deep down, they knew wasn’t going to work out for them. And maybe, just maybe they’ve realized you’re the real deal here. On the other hand, it’s equally as possible that they have no real intentions of getting serious with you. And you might not want that now, but what about in the future? You’re going to be affected by their actions sooner rather than later. And it’s probably going to be you that winds up hurt and confused if you go for that rebound relationship.
2. You’re Being Used
Yes, yes you are. Don’t argue with me. Just kidding, argue if you want but the reality is that if they jump straight into your arms after getting out of commitment, it’s just a rebound relationship. They probably need someone to distract themselves from the pain they’re experiencing. Do you really want to run the risk of catching feelings only for them to back out as soon as things start getting serious? The bottom line is that no one deserves to be used. It’s a horrible feeling and you deserve better.
3. They Don’t Know What They Want
They lured you in with their charm, wits, and – well, you’re not really sure what else. But you do know that they want you. Or do you? This is going to sound harsh, but I’m all about tough love because you deserve to know the truth. They might think being with you is a good idea for the first little while, but then they’ll realize that they want to be single and explore their options further once the charm wears off.
Remember, they’re jumping out of a committed, long-term relationship. And while you may have talked about that when you got together, they still might not know what they’re looking for. Since you’re beautiful inside and out, you stand out to them like a beacon of hope. Don’t give up your happiness to ease someone’s heartbreak. Don’t allow yourself to be in a rebound relationship.
4. They Don’t Know How to be Single
They’ve just proven it by jumping from one relationship straight into a rebound relationship. You want someone to be independent and to know what they’re looking for. You don’t want to start dating someone just because they’re lonely. Because in a way, that’s also using you for their own gain. They need to be single and enjoy that life before settling down with someone new. Be with someone who has given themselves time to heal and to move on from their previous relationship so that you know that you have a sincere spot in their heart.
5. It’s a Waste of Your Time
Truthfully, a rebound relationship is just that – a rebound. They’re not looking to be in a real relationship with you. All they want is someone to help them get over the person they really did want to be with. Once that happens, they’ll lose interest and all you get out of the entire thing is wasted time.
You don’t want to be labeled as a rebound, so don’t do that to yourself. If you like someone, strengthen your foundation as friends and be there for them as they move on from their past. Then maybe think about a future.